YK '07
YK ‘07
LAST NIGHT, I SPOKE ABOUT SOME OF THE CONNOTATIONS OF “LIGHT” AS THEY RELATE TO US – BOTH AS INDIVIDUALS AND AS A CONGREGATION. THIS MORNING – I CONTINUE IN THAT SAME VEIN. i begin with a story, ONE THAT i HAVE READ TO YOU NUMEROUS TIMES ON PAST HIGH HOLY DAYS. IT IS THE TRANSCRIPT OF AN ACTUAL RADIO CONVERSATION OF A US NAVAL SHIP WITH CANADIAN AUTHORITIES OF THE COAST OF NEWFOUNDLAND IN VERY HEAVY FOG IN OCTOBER, 1995:
aMERICANS: pLEASE DIVERT YOUR COURSE 15 DEGREES TO THE NORTH OT AVOID A COLLISION.
CANADIANS: rECOMMEND YOU DIVERT YOUR COURSE 15 DEGREES TO THE SOUTH TO AVOID COLLISION.
AMERICANS: THIS IS THE CAPTAIN OF A US NAVY SHIP. I SAY AGAIN, DIVERT YOUR COURSE.
CANADIANS: NO… I SAY AGAIN YOU DIVERT YOUR COURSE.
AMERICANS: THIS IS THE AIRCRAFT CARRIER USS LINCOLN, THE SECOND LARGEST SHIP IN THE UNTIED STATES ATLANTIC FLEET. WE ARE ACCOMPANIED BY THREE DESTROYERS, THREE CRUISERS AND NUMEROUS SUPPORT VESSELS. i DEMAND THAT YOU CHANGE YOUR COURSE 15 DEGREES NORTH. THAT’S ONE FIVE DEGREES NORTH, OR COUNTER-MEASURES WILL BE UNDERTAKEN TO ENSURE OUR SAFETY.
CANADIANS: THS IS A LIGHTHOUSE2…… YOUR CALL!!
the reason i tell you this story is, of course, not only because it’s funny, but also because i think it explains why we have come here today.
Very simply, we live in a foggy world; a world in which it is very easy to wander off course and not even know it. We have learned the hard way that the lighthouse sees things more clearly than we do; that it has the power to cut through the fog that clouds our vision better than we can. Therefore, we come here, at least once a year, in order to check with the lighthouse, and in order to make a midcourse correction, if need be, in order to avoid a crash.
For that is what the Torah and the tradition are - they are lighthouses. They have been cutting through the fog and illuminating the world for all these centuries, and it behooves us, when the fog is thick and we cannot find our way, to check our course with the help of the lighthouse in order that we do not crash.
What does the lighthouse see that we don't see? What does the lighthouse have to say to us today?
Let me name three of the things that I believe we all have trouble seeing because of the fog.
One: the people around us. Two: the possessions we have. And three: our children.
When you look around you, at home, in the office, or on the road, when you are with family and friends, a client or a customer, what do you see?
If your vision is foggy, you see a rival, or a competitor, or a person whom you can use for your own benefit. The lighthouse bids you look again, and correct your course, because if you go through life looking at the people around you that way, you will end up alone.
The lighthouse says that sooner or later you are going to have to understand that your impact upon the world will come, not from how successful you are in beating your competition, but from what you mean to other people and what they mean to you.
When it is foggy out there, it is hard to understand that because the fog makes us forget that the struggle for success, unless it is controlled, can consume your soul. The fog makes us think that there are not enough of the good things in life to go around, and therefore that you better hustle and scramble if you want to get your share. The fog makes us think that everything that someone else has is something that we can't have; that every point of market share that someone else has is one more share that we can't have. But if you live that way long enough, you will crash into the lighthouse; because if you see the world as dog eat dog, then eventually you become a dog.
And so we come here today in order to see the world with the help of the lighthouse; because if we do, if we look at the people around us by the light that comes from the lighthouse, we will see that the other is a partner, a friend, a person who is made in the image of God, and if you see him that way, you will not crash into him.
let’s now turn from people to possessions and look at them from the point of view of the lighthouse.
If you look at your possessions through the fog, you think that they are your strength, and that they are your security. But if you look at them with the help of the lighthouse, you realize that, if you depend on them, then you don't possess your possessions, they possess you! How do you remember this truth while you are in the middle of the rat race?
My suggestion is to take a furlough one day in seven –AKA “Shabbat.” My suggestion is to get out of the rat race one day in SEVEN; so that you may realize that you are a person and not a rat; so that you may realize that you are not a money making machine and not a money spending machine, that you are not a machine at all. You are a person! if you can live on a different plain for twenty five hours a week without making money or spending money, without being part of the rat race, Then you possess your possessions and they do not possess you. and if you can’t do that, if you are so addicted to the accumulation of things that you cannot quit, even for a day, then the lighthouse says that you are headed for a crash. You will end up at the end, after a lifetime of running, rushing, grabbing and spending, feeling cheated; feeling that you have run and run and run and gotten nowhere.
There is one more dimension of our lives that we need to look at with the help of the lighthouse: our children.
Many of us work hard, very hard, in order to give our children everything, and then, we end up, when the fog clears, realizing, too late, that we have given them every THING, everything except that which they need more than all others, namely, ourselves.
no too long ago, A Boston based social psychologist named Tom Cottle conducted a study in which he tried to quantitatively identify the best predictor of how students would do on their S.a.t. exams. his answer – how often students had dinner with their parents. a youngster who has dinner with his parents on the average of twice a week will, on average, do 30 points better on his S. A. T’s than one who has dinner with his parents only once a week! think of that! If that is true, then all the time that we spend, and all the strength and energy that we spend running around, working hard, so that we will be able to give our children every thing, to the point where we have no time and no strength left to give them of our selves, may be a terrible waste. We may end up shortchanging them, and we may have set them on a crash course, without meaning to.
And so the lighthouse says: have Dinner with you kids. more specifically, have Shabbat dinner with your kids—NO MATTER WHAT. And if your schedule does not permit it? THEN CHANGE YOUR SCHEDULE!
The lighthouse says: make a course correction before it is too late. Cut through the fog and see things as they really are. The LIGHTHOUSE SAYS that your kids need you and your time a lot more than they need whatever it is that you earn WITH YOUR hectic schedule. But when it is foggy, and when the whole culture clouds your vision, with its message of more, more, more, more, it is hard to understand this.
And so we come here today in order to look at our schedules, and in order to look at our children, by the light that comes from the lighthouse.
What does the light house say?
It says some very simple, very basic, very obvious truths, which, because of the fog we have somehow lost sight of.
It says things like: be a mentsch, have compassion for others , do a mitzvah, honor your parents, take the torah seriously, observe shabbat, love your neighbor as yourself, and care about what is going on, both at home and on the other side of the world. if you don't understand this, you are setting yourself up for a crash.
The world around us is very foggy, and so it is very easy to get off course. and far too many of us are like the captain in our story who went around saying: I'm an aircraft carrier - You move for me, instead of realizing that we are dealing with a lighthouse, that does not move for anyone, and that lights the way for everyone.
May we not be like that captain. Instead, may we ask the real questions, and may we look to the lighthouse (to torah and judaism) for guidance in how to answer them. May we cut through the fog and correct our course. For if we do, then it will be a good year, a sweet year, a blessed year, for all of us.
